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Delayed Gratification and what it’ll Get You
the art and balance of choosing your time and energy
Asian Wander Women
May 30, 2024
Delayed Gratification and what it’ll Get You
Most recently, I was invited to a girls’ hangout—the groupchat was popping and already plans were being made left to right. I felt like a wet towel when i said I couldn’t attend because I had plans.
In reality, I was at home editing on my latest YouTube video.
And it’s funny because I think about what can now bring me joy, and in that moment, it was being at home and editing my YouTube content late into the night with a cup of warm decaffeinated tea. I didn’t feel like spending another $60 in San Francisco, paying for Ubers and for an expensive dinner I didn’t want to go to.
I wanted to hone my editing skills. My big picture was that I wanted to get back into YouTube consistently, and create content on that platform.
Watch the marshmellow test study to understand more about delayed gratification.
My instant gratification was that I could go out for 4-5 hours out of guilt, maybe have a good time, get some drinks, and then not have accomplished anything with my goal.
I guess what I’m saying is that if you’re working towards anything, a goal, a business, or a new life, you have to pick your yes’s and your no’s. Pick your long term goal over an immediate achievable goal. Choose the long game than the short one.
Asian Wander Women is product of delayed gratification. Members may not truly know what goes behind running an online free community, but we have poured thousands of hours into building this space for Asian women and we do it for free. Perhaps we’re not a huge over night success, but we are the first of its kind and we’re diversifying the face of travel.
I continue to work on the community because I believe the mission is important; it has been a lot of delayed gratification to get it to where it is, but I love what I’m doing with AWW and the value it brings to Asian women in the diaspora. We didn’t have instant success, nor did I quit when we didn’t—simply because I believed in the mission.
Of course, I don’t say no to everything as I still enjoy life. I just don’t do everything and no longer feel fomo because my vision is clear. I may not show up to everything, but I vowed to show up when it’s important and consistenly work on something when it aligns with my values.
"I hated every minute of my training but I said, 'Don't quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.'" - Muhammud Ali
Brain Snacks 🧠
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Introducing the O Type Human - O is a new employee type. If you’re a generalist and feeling alone, don’t. Os “always close the loop, integrating everything we touch: wholeness is the goal. We're not "jacks of all trades, masters of none." They’re masters of complexity and integration.
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